Sunday, May 24, 2020

Trivia Post 15

Adding some trivia notes for the last few weeks:

1. Jaideep Ahlawat in Rockstar. Ishwak Singh in Tamasha.
2. Prosit Roy in Paatal Lok
3. A Game of Thrones reference in Paatal Lok. The report card has House Baratheon written on it.
4. Harpreet Singh Bedi watches Ramayana in Rocket Singh: Salesman of the Year. Ghar ka B(h)edi Lanka dhaaye.
5. Hardik Mehta's cameo in his own film Kaamyaab. Also, it is a throwback to the scene from Khiladi with that nasal stick.
6. Barfi and Jagga Jasoos.
7. Lootera and Hasee Toh Phasee.
8. The opening quote in Aurangzeb.
9. Life suc(k)s in Blackmail
10. Vishal Bharadwaj wrote a lovely tribute for Irrfan by penning a screenplay Ifu Aur Main. Some excerpts. 

11. Sons coming back to Naseeruddin Shah's life in Masoom and Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara. 
12. Akshay Kumar referring his own film Kesari in Good Newwz.
13. In Kahaani, the signs were there all along.
14. I liked the poster of Gulabo Sitabo.
• Candles in chandelier x Single bulb
• Goat with a beard (like Amitabh Bachchan) x Bird on a twig
• Pink x Blue
15. The trailer of Gulabo Sitabo reminded me of a post I was working on but never got enough instances to cite—on archaeologists in films. Some films that featured them: Guide (1965), Suryavanshi (1992), Hey Ram (2000), Naksha (2006), Aladin (2009), Goliyon Ki Raasleela Ram-Leela (2013), Lootera (2013), and Gulabo Sitabo (2020).
16. A lovely frame from Kapoor & Sons (Since 1921)
17. A subtitle from Andaz Apna Apna which also reminds one of Chandler from Friends
18. Yellow in Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi
Dialogue of the Day:
"Adhuri mulaqat hi toh phir se milne ka vaada hota hai."
—Mastani, Bajirao Mastani

Tuesday, May 19, 2020

Revolution Number 33

It is time for my annual birthday post again. I have written a post on my birthday every year starting from 2009. These posts were intended as a sort of journal entry which was also the purpose I started writing this blog in the first place. It was like something to remember for that day. When I look back at some of these older posts, apart from the cringe, it makes me wonder how unlikable a person I was then. We don't like many films of the past if we watch them today. We say they have not dated well. Many a time, our own version of our past self also does not date well either. Life changes us a bit day by day.

In the last few months, almost the entire earth is under some sort of lockdown because of the pandemic. No one knows what is in store for our future. I saw some comments and analysis on how people are learning new things about their personality in regards to whether they are really introverts or extroverts. For me, I learned new things about myself about seven-eight years ago in a different kind of lockdown. When I went for masters, there were days I could not even go and step out of the house due to severe snow. There was a two-month period where I stayed in a really small town in Iowa and I knew only one person in the entire town. In Seattle, once I started working again, there is actually a famous concept called Seattle Freeze. There were weekends I did not know where to go. I always used to think I am an introvert and I do not like to be in large groups. I stay alone and like it honestly. I am fine with being called a loner but at the same point, you still need to talk to people, even if it is just to let out for a few minutes. You need that human connection. I remember there was a particularly difficult time at work in 2015 and I did not have anyone at work to even talk. When I was completely alone, I turned to write on films seriously in the hope that someone with a similar mental wavelength will read it. This is also why I am more vocal on Twitter while if someone meets me in real life, I do not talk much. I got to know many things about my own self in these moments from the last few years and how wrong I was earlier. Thus, this work from home in this lockdown is not something new but just that it has been sustained for so long that sometimes it makes me a bit more stressed. But it is difficult for everyone, not just me. I hope things get better for all of us.

Last year, at this point in time, I was feeling more than nervous about some changes that happened at work. Everything was changing. I don't know if I chose the right path for myself or could have done things differently. It has not been easy as I wrote last year on struggling to survive in the corporate world, but I managed to survive this year. My current manager told me about a month ago that you have a lot of emotional maturity (I felt very happy to hear this as I feel the exact opposite about myself), but try to take less stress about things you cannot control. 

On this birthday, I went to work for a change. If it was any other year, I would have taken a leave to sit at home. How times change! And, I gifted myself a haircut after two months. I used to cut my hair just from the top but it is the shape around the neck and the ears that matter the most. I am looking less ugly today. Haha. 

And, I read this by David Perell on Twitter today, "Few things will inspire you like a specific compliment from somebody you admire. It's amazing... one sentence can carry you for years." I want to write something here but I am afraid to share it openly. Never mind. 

I want to write more such posts but then forget about them. Anyway, happy birthday to me. :) 

Dialogue of the Day:
"Kisi ko pyar karna aur ussi se pyar paana, bahut kam logon ko naseeb hota hai."
—Nisha, Dil To Pagal Hai

Friday, May 15, 2020

Thappad—A Sky of My Own

After tackling religion and caste in Mulk and Article 15, Anubhav Sinha looks at patriarchy and domestic violence in Thappad. The film opens with a bunch of people eating ice candy. These people are in different states of marriage—engaged, happily married, unhappily married, and widowed. All of them are connected to Amrita (Taapse Pannu), a housewife, married to Vikram (Pavail Gulati). Amrita and Vikram host a gathering to celebrate Vikram's transfer to London. At the party, Vikram learns that he will be working under some new guy in London. Not happy by this, an agitated Vikram has an argument with his boss. In the ensuing mêlée, he slaps Amrita in front of everyone. Thappad shows the impact of the slap on the life of Amrita. It raises the point that not even one slap, even if it was in the heat of the moment and even if it was not intentional, should be accepted. Nahi maar sakta hai. Co-written by Mrunmayee Lagoo, Thappad tries to show a mirror to people on how unfairly they treat the women in their lives, just as Article 15 was a primer for urban India to make them aware of the stronghold of the caste system in Indian soceity.
In Thappad, women think and talk a lot about their inner happiness. Amrita reminisces about her college days and tells her lawyer Netra (Maya Sarao), that she wanted only two things in life—respect and happiness. She still wishes for these two things in her life. However, due to the thappad, she is not able to respect herself. She used to wake up earlier than anyone in the house, prepare tea, and click the picture of the same sky every day. And she felt happy even with the monotony of her routine. She has lost that happiness. Netra philosophizes that difficult choices force people to choose the easy path where they lie and pretend to be happy, like the lie she has told herself about her marriage. In her borrowed time with her boyfriend, she says that everyone has the right to be happy. Later, Amrita asks her mother-in-law Sulakshna (Tanvi Azmi) if she is happy in life, who replies that for women, their happiness lies in the happiness of their family. Amrita's father, Jayant (Kumud Mishra), also talks about the happiness of mothers and says they find happiness in the happiness of others. During Amrita's pregnancy, her parents again discuss that they should keep her happy. When Amrita wavers for a bit in her decision to separate, her father advises her that sometimes doing the right thing might not necessarily lead to happiness. Towards the end of the film, all the women make decisions in life for their happiness. Amrita's mother-in-law agrees with her decision to move out and blesses her to be happy in life. Netra breaks up with Priyan (Rohan Khurana) and says that she wants to be happy in everything she does now. Shivani (Dia Mirza) speaks to her daughter and says she does not need any man and that she is happy by herself. These women are only looking to be happy. This is precisely why I was disappointed that the film gave a path to happiness to all the upper-class women, but for Sunita (Geetika Vidya Ohlan), a house help, who faced the most abuse, there was no clear exit strategy. Her choices were violent retaliation and contentment with dancing. Her economic situation, perhaps, made it harder for her to move out, but for a film that talked about not accepting even ek thappad, Sunita deserved a path to long-term happiness, too. 
The next morning after the party, Vikram talks about the emotional investment he incurred in his company to rise up the corporate ladder. He tells Amrita that he plans to quit because "Mujhe vahan rehna hi nahi hai jahan meri koi value nahi hai." The same thing applies to Amrita as well. Should she stay where her emotional investment is not valued? Did she not spend years supporting Vikram in every way? During this scene, Amrita and Sunita are shown side-by-side on the screen. Amrita is gazing at Sunita, where it feels like the film is trying to establish equivalence between the two. Sunita faced daily domestic violence at the hands of her husband. Is Amrita then any different from her, given that her husband slapped her as well? Even if it is one slap, violence is violence. Later, Sunita even tells her husband that all men beat their wives, and she curses him for no reason, again establishing a similarity between the men. 
In my post on Noah Baumbach's Marriage Story, I wrote about the invisibility of a couple in their marital life. Thappad also portrays the invisibility but only of its women. Their lives. Their dreams. Their choices. The next day after the party, Vikram comes down, and all he talks about is himself. How he felt humiliated. In his scheme of things, he does not see Amu as an individual, and not once he brings up the humiliation he inflicted on Amu. How she would have felt. The house with the blue door in London is Vikram's dream. Amrita starts dreaming about the same, forgetting that her favorite color is yellow. The nameplate outside their house only has Vikram's name, and Amrita's name is missing from there. Even Amrita's brother also does not see the issue with Vikram's slap. At the house of Vikram's father, his sister-in-law serves food quietly while all the men eat together. She has only one speaking line in the entire film. Amrita's father says about his wife Sandhya that all her life, she lived for the happiness of others, forgetting her own happiness. Later, Sandhya makes him realize that while fulfilling the dreams of his daughter, he forgot the dreams of his wife. She wanted to be a singer, but he never asked and encouraged her. Rohit Jaisingh (Manav Kaul), the journalist, does not see that his wife Netra can have the skills to be a good lawyer. He slyly remarks that a rival lawyer would have deliberately lost to her. Netra remarks that in public events, everyone is seeing only him, and she wonders what she is doing there with him. 
The women are seen only in terms of their relationships—Vikram's wife, Rohit Jaisingh's wife, Justice Jaisingh's daughter-in-law—rather than as individuals with unique identities. As Amrita says, all the love Vikram's family showered on her was for the person who is Vikram's wife, not for the person who is Amrita. Woh jo sara pyaar tha na, woh Vikram ki wife ke liye tha, mere liye nahi tha. No one came to see her even once after she left the house. This was also Thappad's most memorable scene where Amrita speaks her heart out to everyone in her family that instead of asking Vikram to course correct, they asked her to move on. Therefore, she decides to leave them. This scene reminded me of the final scene from T. Rama Rao's Sansar (1987), one of my favorite films from childhood, where an emotional Uma (Rekha) accuses her in-laws of breaking their relationship with her because of her husband's faults. They did not even come to see her newborn son after her return even while staying in the same house. Therefore, she decides to stay separately because their internal divisions have become long-lasting. She moves out with her husband while promising to visit them every weekend. 

Alankrita Shrivastava's acclaimed Lipstick Under My Burkha had such unlikable men that it made us condone some of the actions of its women. Thappad indicts men but does not demonize all of them. There are some decent men in the film. Netra respects her father-in-law. Vikram's mother says that everyone used to find faults with her cooking, but her own father-in-law never said anything to her. Shivani believes men to be wonderful people because her husband was one such man. The writing of the film gives some men in the film an arc. Even the character of Vikram is written so that one does not hate him at any point, but one can see his flaws. It would have been so easy to make us all hate Vikram, but Thappad avoided that route. There is this tiny scene where he angrily goes away from Amrita's house, but when he sees her father standing at the gate, he emerges from the car and touches his feet. It is a scene that is so thoughtful and telling. Pavail Gulati is spectacular, bringing out the difficult-to-portray complexity of Vikram with élan. 
Vikram does not seem to be a bad person or husband, but the signs of his entitlement were visible all along. The slap only made Amrita see these things which she had been ignoring. Early in the film, when the printer or the internet does not work, Vikram starts blaming Amrita. He orders her to switch on the geyser. When he comes down, he gets annoyed by the noises in the kitchen. He invites people to his house for a party without even asking Amrita. Just watch how he orders Amrita with his hand gestures to meet and greet his boss when he arrives at the party. When he sees his neighbor with a new car, he slyly comments, "Karti kya hai yeh?" insinuating that she does not deserve it. While going to work, he asks why they let women drive. Vikram mentions that he agreed to marry Amrita even though she did not know cooking despite being a foodie, as if he did her a favor. He enjoys a smoke himself, but when he sees Swati (Naila Grewal) taking a drag, he questions her if her financé knows about it. Even the morning after the slap, it was all about him. His dreams. His humiliation. His future. Amrita listened to all this quietly, hoping he would say something about her. But he does not apologize to her. He only does so after their divorce right at the end when he finally realizes his mistake.
Then, there is Amrita's father, Jayant, whom I initially disliked because he felt like someone who thinks he was a good man because he did what is expected from a decent human. Like the imaandari-ka-ghamand that we saw in Amit Masurkar's Newton. Also, he behaved in a really patronizing manner with his wife. He would say these comments at his wife either praising himself or subtly reminding her of her faults. In his first scene in the film, he reveals to Sandhya Ji (Ratna Pathak Shah) that on their wedding day, her father cried and asked him to forgive her mistakes. However, he adds that she never committed any mistake, just that she boils the tea too long. Then, at later stages in the film, he reiterates that she boils the tea much longer than he likes. When Amrita is about to be born, he says to Sandhya that he did not fight with her during the pregnancy. Because he did not fight with her during pregnancy (which one would expect from a person at all times), he praised himself. And, then, finally, in one of the film's most beautiful scenes, Sandhya makes him realize that she had to compromise on her desires to take care of her family. He is taken aback because he believes he never stopped her from doing anything. But at the same time, he never encouraged her either. He motivated his daughter, but he never did the same to his wife. I was surprised by myself how much I disliked his character's mahanta. But after much thinking, I felt a little less harsh towards him. His imperfect feminism was way better than others' entitled patriarchy. At least he was trying. He admonishes his son for raising his voice while speaking to his fiancée Swati. He is the only one in the film who addresses his wife with a respectable Ji. Like Amrita had talked about respect and happiness, Sandhya Ji at least got respect in her marriage. He is also one of the rare men who is seen working in the kitchen. When Vikram goes to the kitchen, he cannot even find tea and gets frustrated in a minute. (There is another nice guy Priyan who is a chef. Perhaps, the film is saying that men who can cook are better.) If Thappad does not villainize all the men, it also puts some blame on women and their years and years of conditioning to accept patriarchal norms without questioning them. But no one is portrayed as a saint or a devil in the film. 
Like other films this year, Thappad also has moments of solidarity among women. When Vikram wonders about Shivani's rapid professional growth, Amrita replies, "Mehnat karti hai." Later, in front of Vikram's lawyer, Amrita stands up for her lawyer. "Lawyer se activist nahi bani hai, lawyer se ek aurat ban gayi hai." But as always, it is the silent moments that stand out. Vikram increases Sunita's salary without her asking and says that she should tell him if Amrita calls. To me, it felt like he was bribing her. She accepts it but quietly returns it later, demonstrating sisterhood by standing up for her Didi. 
Thappad imbues itself with little details. The night after the party, a restless Amrita is not able to sleep and starts arranging the furniture of the house, indicating the changing dynamics of her life. When Amrita leaves Vikram's house, the plants wither away. Vikram starts realizing the value of Amrita. His tea tastes terrible. He has to order food from outside. Post their divorce, Amrita and Vikram sit in their respective cars and drive towards the opposite sides of the road as signaled by the indicator lights pointing to their separate paths in life (she turns right). One other discernible thing about the film is the use of glass walls. Many scenes in the film are shot where characters are framed behind glass. A few of Amrita and Vikram's conversations scenes are shot where they are sitting behind glass frames. I am not fully sure if this represents something. Also, unlike Anubhav Sinha's previous films Mulk and Article 15 with a grey tint in frames, Thappad is shot in brighter colors.
Conversations Behind Glass
Glass Frames
Anubhav Sinha has also quite subtly added political commentary to the film. There is the mention of Ramdhari Singh Dinkar's poem Samar Sesh Hai. Amrita's father speaks some lines from the same poem. Samar sesh hai, nahi pap ka bhagi keval vyaadh, jo tatasth the samay likhega unka bhi apradh. The war is not over, the hunter alone must not partake the sin; time will judge those who stood by and watched. This indictment of bystanders also harks back to the neutrality dialogue in Article 15, where Ayan, on being asked to remain neutral, replies that staying neutral when a fire is raging means standing with the ones who lit it. There are other tiny political items in Thappad. The news playing on television is about the internet blockade. There are free press awards; one of them was given to a journalist named Rohit. At some other point, Rohit says Salve is overrated. There is Jaisingh as well. The name and professions of these characters seem way too similar to some (in)famous real-life people. 
Early in the film, Amrita asks Vikram if she should learn to drive, but he brushes it off, saying she should first learn to make parathas without burning her fingers. Life comes full circle. After her divorce, Amrita drives back in her car. She even makes parathas. Not for anyone else but for own self. Throughout the film, she keeps wondering if she is doing right or wrong. Her father assures her if the voice of her heart is saying it is right, then it must be right. If she finds happiness or not, that time will tell, but for now, she has found a sky of her own. A sky of her very own. 
1) There are some famous paintings that can be seen in the film. These include some by Frida Kahlo, Gustav Klimt, and Amrita Sher-gil. I have a theory that they specifically chose iconic paintings related to women. More entries for #ArtInMovies thread. 
Self-Portrait with Thorn Necklace and Hummingbird by Frida Kahlo
The Portrait of Adele Bloch-Bauer I by Gustav Klimt
Three Girls by Amirta Sher-gil
2) At one point, we see Amrita's university degree with her father's name. As an answer to that, all the people credited in the opening credits of the film were shown with their mother's name as their middle name.
3) After Manmarziyaan, Taapsee plays another character closely associated with Amrita Pritam. 
4) Maya Sarao was Chhutki in Ankhon Dekhi
5) Mrunmayee Lagoo is the daughter of Reema Lagoo. 

Cutting Scissors:
No cuts have been made in the film.

Other Reading:
1. On Article 15Link
2. On MulkLink
3. On the Invisibility of the Other in Marriage StoryLink

Dialogue of the Day:
"Haan maine apne aanchal ka ambar banaya hai,
ke kahin gar mera raasta, 
chahaton se alag jo chale,
ke kahin gar mere seene mein, 
saans thori bhi jo kam pade,
mera apna bhi ik aasmaan ho, 
khud ko har ek disha me bikherun,
mujh ko har ek disha se bulana, 
main agar phir se bhi mil bhi jaaun,
mujhe paash mein bheench lena,
magar mere aasmaan ko,
taha kar mujhe saunp dena,
taaki tera bhi ik aasmaan ho,
aur mera bhi ik aasmaan ho,
aur mera bhi ik aasmaan ho."
—Amrita, Thappad

Sunday, May 3, 2020

Keep Going

This pandemic is getting into my head. I feel like we will never be out of this. And, this isolation is also creeping up on me. Some days it just really gets on. Sending good vibes. Ask. Believe. Receive.