Of Falling in Love Twice, Cult Lamhe, and Valentine's Day

Hmmm..Again, I have so many topics to write about. As usual, I have more proof of the cosmic connection theory. The last week I was talking to Y that I am going to write a post on her. As much as she denies it, she is in love with two guys simultaneously. I know it, but she just won't admit it. One is her ex, now her best friend, a super scientist, for whom she will travel 40 km alone from Amsterdam to his place, and the other is her other friend, an artist, whom she secretly loves and wishes would at least follow her on Twitter. Aah, what choices, no? Science or Art? Science and Art suit better :) If the scientist guy even calls her now, she would just leave everything and go after him. And the artist's friend, if only he would acknowledge her love. It's ok, Y. You never know..at least you can experience this feeling two times :) 

This reminds me of Phoebe, who faced this situation as well. Phoebe dates two guys: Vince, a fireman, and Jason, a sensitive teacher :) Well, Phoebe is Phoebe. Now, this set me all thinking. Can you fall in love with two people? Yes, absolutely. I personally think that humans are not programmed to be monogamous. Humans are designed to have multiple partners. Think about it. Look at the West and how marriage is entirely different from marriages here. And it is perfectly fine to fall for two people. It's just that you have to be honest about it. And as I have written before, you just can't stop loving anyone. If you stopped loving, it means you never loved. It is just that you need to fill that void if you want to move on. How beautifully Rani said in Hum Tum no (in this post). And as put by Rahul in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, "Hum ek baar jite hain, ek baar marte hain, shaadi bhi ek baar hoti hai, aur pyar....ek hi baar hota hai." Only to contradict his own stand later on! If he loved only once, then why did he marry Anjali? If Tina was his only love, why did he fall for Anjali? Marrying Anjali did not mean he loved Tina any less; it was just that he fell for both Anjali and Tina. It's not wrong..it just happened that way.

As usual, I have seen so many references to this topic this entire week. Just today, I read this only in the newspaper!!

Also, in an article by Anupama Chopra on Anurag Kashyap and cult films that I came across, she says: Anurag is often described as a cult director but he said that he never intended to be one. He wanted to make box office hits but when his debut film Paanch didn't release, his second film Black Friday was delayed and his third film No Smoking soundly trashed by critics and audiences, he was given the cult moniker. Anurag and I debated the definition of a cult movie. The Oxford dictionary describes the cult film as one that has ‘an enduring appeal to a relatively small audience that should be non-mainstream.’ In his opinion, cult films are movies that failed to break even at the box office. People often confuse cult with dark films. Dev D can never be a cult film. Anurag said that a cult film is a film that inspires people to fight for it, ‘like fighting a war for a country.' Which movies would you fight for?

I will fight for so many movies. In fact, most of my favorite movies are cult. Some of them are Swades, Lakshya, Andaaz Apna Apna, Dil Chahta Hai, and many, many more. These films had minimal box office collections. The shocker is Andaaz Apna Apna, which bombed!! Seriously, I still can't believe that.  But the cult movie that I will always fight for is Lamhe. Oh! What a film! I still get misty-eyed whenever I think of this movie. Yash Chopra, in an interview, said that Lamhe is his best work and remains his favorite film.

I loved Lamhe like anything. It was a film that was so ahead of its time. Not surprisingly, it did not work at the box office. A young boy, Viren, falls in love with a much older woman, Pallavi. The woman marries her lover and dies, leaving behind a daughter named Pooja. Viren takes charge of Pooja's upbringing. Pooja grows up to resemble her mother to the T. Pooja falls in love with a much older Viren, who is constantly reminded of Pallavi when he sees Pooja. Unable to decide whether his feelings for Pooja are love for Pooja or for Pallavi, Viren undergoes an emotional churning. Lamhe is one of the most mature stories in Indian cinema, handling a sensitive topic with grace, subtlety, and poise (no comparisons with Nishabd, please!). Splendidly shot in the desert fields of Rajasthan, Lamhe had a fabulous performance by Sridevi, who was marvelous in both the mother-daughter roles. The melodious songs added to the film's charm. Morni bagah ma bole still remains a lesson for choreography and photography! Of course, think of it, if Viren had married Pallavi, there was a very high chance that Pooja would still have her mother's face, and harboring feelings for Pooja would have been deemed to be incestuous. But she was not his daughter, and he eventually fell in love with Pooja (not Pallavi). So, did he stop loving Pallavi then? No! He fell for two different women. So, don't feel guilty..one always has to move on haina?

But what about Anita? She waited for so many years for Viren to marry him. As usual, no one talks about her love or her sacrifice. What did she do wrong? Shouldn't Viren have told her before that he did not love her? As usual, there is no closure to her story. Remember Cuckold?

And I realized this about Lamhe: the cosmic connections theory came into the picture again this week! Falling in love with two people. Meanwhile, here is what one critic wrote about Lamhe:

"Lamhe begs us to understand that one can love in different ways, and for Viren the passion he has for Pallavi is his first real love of anything that dared to exist on its own terms, human or otherwise. Raised in very polite but stoic English society which has made him hopelessly sheltered, Viren is used to things and people being of the 'proper' sort. When he is confronted by Pallavi, he is entirely smitten by her exotic charms, her chaotic wildness, her absolute connection to the world in which she lives, a notion of which Viren knows nothing about. He is seduced and enchanted by this exotic figure, but her regard for him is that of a foreigner who has come to reacquaint himself with his roots. Many years later, the experience is echoed in Pooja's upbringing: lonely and isolated, she somehow manages to recall her mother's wondrous spirit, and then lays the memories of Viren's past squarely in front of him."

So, which movies will you fight for? I have many, many more, and I will write about them later.

And why oh why do these TV shows make so good episodes on Valentine's Day :( So, Grey's..this week, it was Valentine's Day and no surprises for guessing what the episode was about. So there is this 10-year-old boy who is in love with his classmate. So he gives her chocolates without realizing she is allergic to peanuts. She had a severe allergic reaction and had to be hospitalized. He was there (with his mother) the entire time and wouldn't let go of her. The doctors told him to go home, but he was adamant about what she would think if she found out he left without meeting her after the operation. So, Alex (awesome he is!) tells him to write a letter, which he wrote in the letter.

Dear Clementine,

I am really sorry you are sick, but I am not sorry you are my girl friend. It's the worst being alone on Valentine's Day, but I am thinking about you right now. I am thinking about holding hands with you and jumping on the trampoline together. I love you.

P.S. — I don't know who gave the lice, but I am just glad we both had it together. 

Love

Nico

This is so awesome, yeah. Lexie finally realizes that she should tell Mark that she loves him because you never know what happens to you. You might die and never get to tell like it happened with the couple in which the guy left a proposal in the locket, and he died later.

Oh Grey's, why do you have to be awesome always? I have been writing about love a lot. But it's my blog. I will write whatever I feel like, so I shouldn't think much about it.

I had a bad day in the office yesterday :( These managers expect everything to be done without telling. Sometimes, they say one thing, and sometimes the opposite thing. Never happy they are It's always a fault-finding. But then M said something to me that made me feel happy. And J told me not to take these things seriously..yeh sab hota rehta hai. And office me this weekend (today, that is), there was an off-site at Jim Corbett. I didn't feel like going because I don't like traveling by road :( Saturday jao and Sunday aajao..too hectic it would be..This is the thing about me. I want to travel around the world but don't like traveling :( Moreover, M and J were not going either. Theek hai. 

I still have so much to write about. I hope I will not forget about the topics and will try to write later on.

Dialogue of the Day:

"कहते है मिल जाये तुम्हे तुम्हारी मोहब्बत तो मान लो खुदा तुम पर मेहरबान हो गया, और अगर न मिले तो जान लो की खुदा तुम से एक जान हो गया." — Gulab Ji, Saawariya

P.S. — I will fight for Saawariya, too.