Of Falling in Love Twice, Cult Lamhe, and Valentine's Day

Hmmm..I again have so many topics to write about..

As usual I have more proofs of cosmic connection theory. The last week I was talking to Y that I am going to write a post on her. As much as she denies, she is in love with two guys at the same time. I know it she just won't admit it. One is her ex, now her best friend, a super scientist, for whom she will travel 40 kms alone from Amsterdam to his place and the other is her other friend, an artist, whom she secretly loves and wishes would at least follow her on twitter. Aah what choices no? Science or Art? Science and Art suits better :) If the scientist guy even calls her now, she would just leave everything and go after him. And the artist friend, if only he would at least acknowledge her love. It's ok Y..You never know..at least you are able to experience this feeling two times :) 

This reminds me of Phoebe who faced this situation as well. Phoebe dates two guys: Vince, a fireman, and Jason, a sensitive teacher :) Well, Phoebe is Phoebe. Now this set me all thinking. Can you fall in love with two people? Yes, absolutely. I personally think that humans are not programmed to be monogamous. Humans are designed to have multiple partners. Think about it. Look at the West, how the concept of marriage is entirely different from marriages here. And it is perfectly fine to fall for two people. It's just that you have be to honest about it. And as I have written before that you just can't stop loving anyone. If you stopped loving, it means you never loved. It is just that you need to fill that void if you want to move on. How beautifully Rani said in Hum Tum no (in this post). And as put by Rahul in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, "Hum ek baar jite hain, ek baar marte hain, shaadi bhi ek baar hoti hai, aur pyar....ek hi baar hota hai." Only to contradict his own stand later on! If he loved only once, then why did he marry Anjali? If Tina was his only love, then why did he fall for Anjali? Marrying Anjali did not mean that he loved Tina any less..it is just that he fell for both Anjali and Tina. It's not wrong..it just happened that way.

As usual, this enitre week, I could see so many references to this topic. Just today only in the newspaper, I read this!!

Also, in an article by Anupama Chopra on Anurag Kashyap and cult films, that I came across, she says:

Anurag is often described as a cult director but he said that he never intended to be one. He wanted to make box office hits but when his debut film Paanch didn't release, his second film Black Friday was delayed and his third film No Smoking soundly trashed by critics and audiences, he was given the cult moniker. Anurag and I debated the definition of a cult movie. The Oxford dictionary describes the cult film as one that has ‘an enduring appeal to a relatively small audience that should be non-mainstream.’ In his opinion, cult films are movies that failed to break even at the box office. People often confuse cult with dark films. Dev D can never be a cult film. Anurag said that a cult film is a film that inspires people to fight for it, ‘like fighting a war for a country.' Which movies would you fight for?

I have so many movies that I will fight for. In fact, most of my favourite movies are cult. Some of them being Swades, Lakshya, Andaaz Apna Apna, Dil Chahta Hai and many many more. These films had minimal box office collections. The shocker being Andaaz Apna Apna which bombed!! Seriously, I still can't believe that. 

But the cult movie that I will always always fight for is Lamhe. Oh! What a film ya. I still get misty eyed whenever I think of this movie. Yash Chopra in an interview had said that Lamhe is his best work and remains his favorite film.

I loved Lamhe like anything. It was a film that was so ahead of its times. Not surprisingly it did not work at the box office. A young boy, Viren, falls in love with a much older woman, Pallavi. The woman marries her lover and dies leaving behind a daughter named Pooja. Viren takes the charge of Pooja's upbringing. Pooja grows up to resemble her mother to the T. This time Pooja falls in love with a much older Viren, who is constantly reminded of Pallavi when he sees Pooja. Unable to decide his feelings for Pooja as love for Pooja or love for Pallavi, Viren undergoes an emotional churning. Lamhe is one of the most mature stories to come out in Indian cinema, handling a sensitive topic with grace, subtlety  and poise (no comparisons with Nishabd please!). Splendidly shot in the desert fields of Rajsthan, Lamhe had a fabulous performance by Sridevi who was marvelous in both the mother-daugheter roles. The melodious songs added to the film's charm. Morni bagah ma bole still remains a  lesson for choreography and photography! Of course, think of it, if Viren had married Pallavi, very high chances that Pooja would still have her mother's face and harbouring feelings for Pooja would have deemed to be incestous. But the truth is she was not his duaghter and he eventually fell in love with Pooja (not Pallavi). So, did he stop loving Pallavi then? No! He fell for two different women. So, don't feel guilty..one always has to move on haina?

But what about Anita? She waited for so many years for Viren to marry him. As usual, no one talks about her love..her sacrifice..What did she do wrong? Shouldn't Viren have told her before that he did not love her..As usual no closure to her story..Remember Cuckold?

And I was realizing this about Lamhe, cosmic connections theory came into picture once more this week! Falling in love with two poeple....

Meanwhile, here is what one critic wrote about Lamhe

Lamhe begs us to understand that one can love in different ways, and for Viren the passion he has for Pallavi is his first real love of anything that dared to exist on its own terms, human or otherwise. Raised in very polite but stoic English society which has made him hopelessly sheltered, Viren is used to things and people being of the 'proper' sort. When he is confronted by Pallavi, he is entirely smitten by her exotic charms, her chaotic wildness, her absolute connection to the world in which she lives, a notion of which Viren knows nothing about. He is seduced and enchanted by this exotic figure, but her regard for him is that of a foreigner who has come to reacquaint himself with his roots. Many years later, the experience is echoed in Pooja's upbringing: lonely and isolated, she somehow manages to recall her mother's wondrous spirit, and then lays the memories of Viren's past squarely in front of him.

So which movies will you fight for? I have many many more that I will fight for and I will write about them later.

And why oh why these TV shows make so good episodes on Valentine's day :( So, Grey's..this week it was Valentine's  Day and no surprises for guessing what the episode was about. So there is this 10-year old boy who is in love with his classmate. So he gives her chocolates without realizing she was allergic to peanuts. She got a severe allergic reaction and had to be hospitalized. He was there (with his mother) the entire time and wouldn't let go of her. The doctors told him to go home but he was adamant that what will she think if she found out he left without meeting her after the operation. So, Alex (awesome he is!) tells him to write a letter and this is what he wrote in the letter.

Dear Clementine,

I am really sorry you are sick but I am not sorry you are my girl friend. It's the worse being alone on Valentine's Day but I am thinking about you right now. I am thinking about holding hands with you and jumping on the trampoline together. I love you.

P.S. - I don't know care who gave who lice but I am just glad we both had it together

Love

Nico

This is so awesome ya. And Lexie finally realizes that she should tell Mark that she loves him because you never know what happens to you. You might die and never get to tell like it happened with the couple in which the guy left a proposal in the locket and he died later.

Oh Grey's..why you have to be awesome always always!

I just wondered have I been writing about love a lot. But it's my blog. I will write whatever I feel like. So I shouldn't think much about it..

I had a bad day in office yesterday :( These managers expect everything to be done without telling..at times they say one thing and at times the opposite thing..Never happy they are..always fault finding..But then M said  something to me that made me feel happy. And J told me not to take these things seriously..yeh sab hota rehta hai. And office me this weekend (today that is), there was an off-site at Jim Corbett. I didn't feel like going because I don't like travelling by road :( Saturday jao and Sunday aajao..too hectic it would be..This is the thing about me. I want to travel around the world but don't  like travelling :( And moreover, M and J were not going also. Theek hai..   

I still have so much to write about. I hope I will not forget about the topics and will try to write later on.

Dialogue of the Day:

कहते है मिल जाये तुम्हे तुम्हारी मोहब्बत तो मान लो खुदा तुम पर मेहरबान हो गया, और अगर न मिले तो जान लो की खुदा तुम से एक जान हो गया - Gulab Ji, Saawariya

P.S. - I will fight for Saawariya too!